Adoption : the act of adopting : to accept formally and put into effect.
“Si fueris Romae, Romano vivito more...” which translates into the well known phrase 'When in Rome, do as the Romans.'
Although at first glimpse it seems a good piece of advice, however, only for a few seconds until practicality sets in.
What about the principles we had been taught, the life style we have been living thus so far? Are we to throw all those years of work, working to be disciplined or being rebellious, away? How far do you go to 'fit in'? And when does the doing as the Roman stop, and the becoming one starts? But in this process, may it be that we lose the 'I', the 'me', the 'inner self' that has brought us to here already?
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Why was I taught all those things? Why was discipline so strong when in the end when I would move and have to learn new rules, new language, new cultures to fit in? Why should I do or learn something if I never wanted too and never did before? How do I know, what is right here, is really right?
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So many questions you may just as well have jumped off a cliff whilst clinging tightly to arms and legs in anticipation of what the dreadful end will be...
It becomes an endless cycle that only if one steps out from the fear of 'what if' may he/she see clearly.
This is not human. This is not even the animal instinct. We are programmed for evolution. Objects are destroyed and recreated, not us. No, we adapt. We adjust to the whether changes, we welcome the new members, we alter ourselves to live our lives, but we do not always start from beginning; we build on our our engraved foundations like civilizations pile up on one after the other taking the best aspects of its predecessors.
It is through this process that we will feed our brain with knowledge. Survival of the fittest. It is through these changes that we will be able to see and truly enhance our knowledge and open our minds to what is in the world.
'New', is not an unfamiliar word. In our day to day life, we are always learning about something new, whether it be stories, games or even about people. Some things we accept, and others we disregard. The only difference is that now, once moving away from home, the learning is on a much bigger scale and from the beginning. Before, where we might have been able to seek guidance from family or friends, here that is not always possible. Here, we are independent. It is us who are the driving force behind how much our knowledge of the world will expand.
Regardless of our efforts though, we probably wont speak the language perfectly, or accept all the aspects of the culture. We might learn some things and enjoy others, but the most important part was that we had the opportunity, and we tried. We investigated our surroundings, learnt about them, and then made our decision to either accept or disregard it.
“...Si fueris alibi vivto sicut ibi” meaning “when you are else where, live as they live elsewhere.” In reality, we may never be as the Romans, but even the Roman will not be once he leaves Rome.